From a young age, about 10 onwards, I remember starting to become aware of how I looked. I also became aware of how my friends looked. She was smaller than me, I would think. Her hair was longer than mine. Her legs were skinnier than mine. Bloody 10 years old! I would look into my Cosmopolitan & Dolly magazines and think “Why don’t I look like these girls in here?” And physically remember feeling down & depressed about it.
Comparison – The thief of all joy.
As a teenager, it continued. It was instilled in my nature to compare myself to those around me.
She was prettier.
She played better netball than me.
She was smarter than me.
Why? Why would I do this?
I lacked confidence in myself & my ability. For most of us, this is where our insecurities stem from. And then we look at those around us, who we think are “better” than us & just WISH we could be like them, not realizing these people we are looking up to, are doing the exact same thing in their minds.
You are responsible for your own happiness.
When I was 16 I joined a gym to help me with Netball & because I wanted to be ‘skinnier’.
It took me a few years to be honest, probably in my early 20’s to get over my body image issues & stop comparing myself to those around me. I had to build up my confidence. My key to that was training. Making myself physically stronger in the gym, also made me mentally stronger to deal with all my issues outside the gym. The training was (and still is) my feel-good drug.
My body is my body. It is not perfect. But I LOVE it. I work hard on improving it daily & I no longer feel the need to compare myself to those around me. Off course, people will always look better than us, but that is their DNA, their genetics, their hard work put in. No good will come from me looking at my friend or co-worker & comparing myself. The only thing I can do is be inspired by their hard work & work even harder on myself!
If people say to me “I want your body” I always respond with “No you don’t”.
My body is my body.
Focus on you & DO YOU! Forget me & everyone around you.
My tips to help you feel good about yourself.
- Eat good food. If you eat shit, you will feel shit. Nothing worse than pigging out on junk food & sugar 3 days in a row. What will that do to your mindset? It will mentally fuck you up. And our human nature will send us on a guilt trip for days, because you know you shouldn’t treat your body that bad, by feeding it processed garbage. Respect your body & give it the respect it deserves.
- Move. Do something active every day. Burn fucken calories. Walk, run, swim, Crossfit, weights – WHATEVER just move. Our bodies are designed to move & not still around like sloths all day.
- Positive self-talk. Fucken compliment yourself. If you start calling yourself negative shit, like “Fat” you then give those around you permission to think & even call you these negative things. DON’T FUCKEN DO IT. NEVER let a negative word about yourself come out of your mouth. The universe doesn’t want to hear it & neither do the people around you.
- Surround yourself with people who uplift you. ALWAYS.
Your body is your vessel of life. Fucken love it no matter what.